The Receiving Line: Meeting and Greeting Your Guests
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The receiving line is the customary way for newlyweds and their parents to welcome guests. Relatives and friends have made a special effort (some of them traveling long distances) to be there on your special day - they deserve some quality “face-time”, even if it’s only a few minutes. This is also the perfect opportunity for the host/hostess (traditionally the bride’s parents) to greet guests and make proper introductions.
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While some newlyweds consider it a tiresome formality, the receiving line is still a good idea. Even if you forgo the traditional approach, you still need to make time for each individual guest. Etiquette experts advise you to stick with tradition and greet each guest early on, that way you can relax and enjoy the remainder of the reception.
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Who should the receiving line include?
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According to “old-school” bridal etiquette, the receiving line should begin with the Mother-of-the-bride (usually the hostess), followed by the Father-of-the-bride, Mother-of-the-groom, Father-of-the-groom, Bride, Groom and Bridal Party (optional). Of course, family dynamics have changed greatly over the past 50 years and the situation isn’t always this simple. Not to worry. As the definition of “family” has evolved and expanded, so has the receiving line. No matter how unique your situation, you can make it work in a way that is easy and comfortable for everyone
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The Father Factor.
First of all, know this: it is perfectly acceptable nowadays for dads to “pass” on the receiving line. Whether your parents are divorced or separated, this is always an option.
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Dealing With Divorce.
They may not share living quarters, but they do share a love for you. This is a big moment for your parents; they deserve to be by your side on the receiving line, even if it requires some switching around. If the bride’s parents are divorced or separated, they can be placed on either side of the newlyweds or in between the groom’s parents. If the relationship is still amicable, they don’t have to be separated. If anyone is re-married, their current spouse may join them.
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Honored Guests.
It is perfectly fine for a close friend or family member to stand in for the deceased, especially if they contributed to the wedding costs.
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Attendants.
Even the most particular experts agree that it is unnecessary to include the maid-of-honor, best man, or other members of the bridal party. The maid-of-honor can instead mingle with guests as they wait. The best man can make sure the ceremony site is in order. Children, such as flower girls and ring bearers, have no place on the receiving line.
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Short Cut
The smaller the receiving line, the faster guests will move along. If time is a factor, or you feel awkward about your situation, you can always cut it down to include only the bride’s mother, the groom’s mother and of course, the happy couple.
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Approximately how long will it take?
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The time expectancy varies depending on the length of the receiving line and the number of guests. As a guide, it should take roughly 45 minutes per 200 guests.
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When does the receiving line usually take place?
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The receiving line usually forms immediately after the ceremony or at the beginning of the reception. However, trendier options/additions include:
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Canoodle Over Cocktails:
Form the receiving line at the cocktail reception, so guests can mingle and munch while they wait. A strategically-placed table or waiter allows guests to put down glasses and food so their hands are free for introductions.
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Table-Hop:
Many newlyweds forgo the receiving line and choose instead to make the rounds while the sit-down dinner is being served. Keep in mind, however, that the bride and groom have less time to eat, and the guests’ fabulous dinner is interrupted.
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Row-By-Row Release:
Immediately following the ceremony, the bride and groom may stop by each row and greet guests as they filter out. Things usually move along quickly, since guests are anxious to rise and leave the ceremony site.
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By all means, be creative. If you want to put your own twist on this tradition, go ahead - as long as it’s convenient for everyone. It’s your day - do what feels most comfortable for you.
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