Invited to a Wedding? Things You Need to Know.
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Whether it’s the first wedding you’ve ever been to, or the 101st, there are probably a few things you haven’t thought of. After speaking to engaged couples and newlyweds around the country, we’ve prepared a list of things they thought their guests should know.
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Gifts:
Many guests choose to purchase a gift ahead of time and have it sent to the engaged couple. However, if you do bring your gift to the wedding, just ask where you should leave it when you arrive, (there is probably a designated spot). Make sure you attach a card securely. You should also note that you have up to a year after the reception to purchase the gift.
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Giving Money as a Gift:
Money is a suitable and always appreciated wedding gift. Make monetary gifts payable to the bride or groom before the wedding; to both on the wedding day or after. If you wish, present it personally to the couple at the reception.
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RSVP:
The couple that has invited you to the wedding has gone to great lengths to plan this special day. Please take the time to complete the RSVP and return it by the date specified.
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When to Arrive:
The ceremony will usually begin shortly after the time called for on the invitation, and the bride and groom will want you to be there. If you’ll be traveling from afar, leave plenty of time for traffic, getting lost, and other mishaps. If you do get there after the ceremony has started, have an usher escort you to a spot where you can see and hear without interrupting.
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If You Suddenly Can’t Make It:
If you can’t make it at the last minute, use the phone to let someone know. Again, you are paid for and factored into seating arrangements. Plus, you don’t want the bride and groom to worry. For the same reasons, if you know that you’ll have to leave early, tell them before the wedding. They will appreciate the time that you were able to spend with them.
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Cell Phones, Beepers and Pagers:
If they make noise, it is better that you turn them off during the ceremony. If you must take a call during the reception, step outside and find a private spot.
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Dress Code:
Be conscious of the dress code printed on the invitation. If the wedding is black tie, men should wear tuxedos, and women should dress formally.
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Comments and Criticism:
Try not to criticize anything about the ceremony or reception (at least until you get home). The bride and groom have chosen elements based on their tastes, and your only job should be to sit back and enjoy the party.
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Cigars:
Cigar smoking may be a tradition, but the smell and the smoke are offensive to many people. Your best bet is to find someplace outside to light up. Then pop a breath mint and rejoin the party.
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